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I’ve been thinking about transitioning for months—shouldn’t I have this figured out by now?

I’ve been thinking about transitioning for months—shouldn’t I have this figured out by now? I've been seriously going back and forth on whether becoming female is something I should pursue. Its stuck with me for about six months now, but haven't been able to reach a decision despite all that time of thinking. Is that a normal thing to go through, even after all this time? I really hoped to have came to a final choice by now. I've studied all about it, really searched my soul for it, but still I cannot decide whether or not I should. It’s perfectly normal to take time before starting to transition. Everyone's timeline is different. There’s a lot to think about, and most trans folks need time to figure out how they want to transition. Having gone through something similar, I want you to know that taking your time is okay. Transitioning is not just one process but a series of choices about our legal identities, social relationships, and physical appearance. These are big decisions, and every trans person must decide how they want to go about them. Most folks go through a period of reflection and research before starting any kind of transition. Although for some people, this is a really short period of time, you should also keep in mind there are trans folks who have waited many decades before finally beginning their gender journeys—and ...

By |2023-01-10T15:49:05-08:00December 27th, 2022|Uncategorized|Comments Off on I’ve been thinking about transitioning for months—shouldn’t I have this figured out by now?
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Is it weird to be trans and feel indifferent about my genitals?

Is it normal and valid, as a trans woman, to feel indifferent to my genitals as they are? Thanks so much to the brave person who wrote in to ask the Trans Lifeline team this question. Our answer is: Absolutely! It is normal to feel indifference about your genitals as they are. It doesn’t make you less trans or less of a woman. All people, both cis and trans, have complicated feelings about their bodies—and those feelings usually evolve over our lives. Even amongst trans folks, there is no universal opinion or experience on how we feel about our bodies or if we choose to undergo medical transition.I can tell you from direct experience as a trans woman that it’s very typical to have these feelings, and they not only differ from person to person but can also change drastically within our lifetimes. My journey to self-exploration began when I transitioned as a teenager to later de-transitioning…only to eventually come out as nonbinary and restart my transition as a trans woman. Despite these shifts in how I identified, I never experienced bottom dysphoria—it just wasn’t an important part of my experience.The idea that trans women must have strong feelings about their genitals is based on transmisogyny, which is the combination of misogyny and transphobia that trans women face. Because of misogyny, women are often reduced to their genitals. Similarly, under transphobia, cis folks tend to ...

By |2022-12-23T12:10:52-08:00November 4th, 2022|Personal Stories, User Questions|Comments Off on Is it weird to be trans and feel indifferent about my genitals?
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The Limits of Language in Describing Our Identities

The Limits of Language in Describing Our Identities As a person who learned English as a second language, I am fascinated by the complexity and nuances of words and meanings, and the attachment (or disgust) people can develop to specific terms and labels. So, I don’t find it surprising that within the broader TLGBQ+ community, our relationship with the language used to describe ourselves is just as complicated. What I’ve learned is that English TLGBQ+ jargon is a mix of community-generated slang, re-claimed slurs, medicalized terms, and old-fashioned language rooted in dated assumptions about TLGBQ+ people. Learning this slang and understanding if/when it’s appropriate to use is an ongoing process. I realized I was transgender in 2003 (though I’ve known it since I was maybe three years old). Back then, the typical gender transition journey, particularly a medical one, was very gatekept and was based on the mainstream gender binary—which limited the language used to describe transness. I knew I definitely was not a woman, so I seized on the only other option I knew. Though I didn't feel entirely comfortable identifying as a “man,” even a trans one, it was the language I had at the time. So for many years, I identified as a trans man, even though it didn’t feel quite right. It stayed like that until about five years ago, when I moved back to the U.S. from Mexico, that ...

By |2022-12-23T12:10:41-08:00October 27th, 2022|Personal Stories|Comments Off on The Limits of Language in Describing Our Identities
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What Does “Non-binary” Mean?

What Does "Non-binary" Mean? Although “non-binary” (sometimes shortened to NB or phoneticized as “enby”) is becoming a more commonly used term in the trans community, for a lot of folks it’s still an unfamiliar concept. In order to understand what non-binary means, it is important to know what “binary,” or the gender binary, means. The gender binary is the idea or belief that there are only two sexes, female and male, that directly align with two genders, woman and man. Many in our community understand this belief to be a product of colonization and connected to the transphobic belief that gender is a fixed characteristic that must be based on a certain set of biological traits like genitalia and genes.  Although most people accept and identify with the genders they were assigned at birth, many people do not—the former are cisgender people and the latter are transgender people. Similarly, it’s common for trans folks to identify with a binary gender (trans men and trans women)—but for those of us who don’t see ourselves in this gender binary, we may identify with the term “non-binary”. In other words, a non-binary person is someone who does not identify exclusively or fully as a man or a woman. “Non-binary” is an umbrella term for a variety of different gender identities. Some non-binary folks may identify as both a man and a woman, while others may fall outside ...

By |2022-12-23T12:17:52-08:00July 13th, 2022|Health & Wellness, User Questions|Comments Off on What Does “Non-binary” Mean?
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On Being Trans & Autistic

On Being Trans & Autistic Autism Awareness Day Guest Blog by Katy H. April 2, 2022 I was visiting a friend from Tumblr irl (in real life) for the first time and she would not stop talking about tarot cards. Why didn’t she notice that I’d stopped responding at all 10 minutes ago or how I was slumped over like a bored kid in class? When I complained later to a different friend, instead of agreeing with me that it was unforgivably rude, she just said softly, “I try to be patient about stuff like that with my autistic friends.” I was sitting in a workshop about herbal medicine and the presenter talked about being autistic and the different ways he used plant medicine to navigate that. A tincture you could take when you were overwhelmed at the mall? A tea for when words wouldn’t form in your brain? I covered pages of my journal in frantic notes. It was like drinking water when you didn’t realize how thirsty you were. Afterward, I told someone that I thought I might be autistic for the first time. Lots of trans people are autistic, and lots of autistic people are trans. In fact, recent research found that up to 24% of gender-diverse people reported being autistic. Being trans can mean a bunch of different things, and so can being autistic. They are both umbrella terms and ...

By |2022-04-04T11:11:10-07:00February 2nd, 2022|Health & Wellness|Comments Off on On Being Trans & Autistic