I’ve been thinking about transitioning for months—shouldn’t I have this figured out by now?
I’ve been thinking about transitioning for months—shouldn’t I have this figured out by now? I've been seriously going back and forth on whether becoming female is something I should pursue. Its stuck with me for about six months now, but haven't been able to reach a decision despite all that time of thinking. Is that a normal thing to go through, even after all this time? I really hoped to have came to a final choice by now. I've studied all about it, really searched my soul for it, but still I cannot decide whether or not I should. It’s perfectly normal to take time before starting to transition. Everyone's timeline is different. There’s a lot to think about, and most trans folks need time to figure out how they want to transition. Having gone through something similar, I want you to know that taking your time is okay. Transitioning is not just one process but a series of choices about our legal identities, social relationships, and physical appearance. These are big decisions, and every trans person must decide how they want to go about them. Most folks go through a period of reflection and research before starting any kind of transition. Although for some people, this is a really short period of time, you should also keep in mind there are trans folks who have waited many decades before finally beginning their gender journeys—and ...